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DON’T Allow Your Past to Control Your Present (and Life)

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I feel trapped in my mind.

I feel like I’m in the hell phase of my life.

I’m struggling to feel happiness and love.

Every day I don’t want to get up and think when it will be normal.

I feel no one in this world understand me and my situation.

I badly want to come out of my past.

I get frustrated easily.

Any of these sound like you?

We all feel these kinds of feelings at some point in life. And believe me, I understand how it feels.

Probably you’re saying, “You don’t know about me and my life situation. You don’t know what I’m going through.”

And maybe you’re right…

Probably I don’t experience as much as things you experienced. Probably you’re in a bad phase that I never faced.

But I learned one thing from my experience:

“We may have different problems or situation in life but it’s you who makes difference. But you always have two choices: Keep going with your current situation OR do something to change it. Because nothing gonna be change until you take the action. Look for solutions.”

Here, I’m sharing two lessons with you. Some of you will find these boring and non-practical but if a SINGLE person finds these helpful my purpose will be fulfilled.

So keep reading…

1. STOP Feeling Guilty and Do Something

You faced something bad in the past or something went wrong in your relationships and work.

STOP Feeling Guilty.

We keep blaming ourselves for the things which are not in our control. If something went wrong, we started feeling guilty and think it’s you who’s responsible for all this.

You need to stop feeling guilty right now. Pain is the fuel of guilt and anger, the more you feel it the more it will produce pain.

God gives us ONE life. It’s a gift, use it wisely. We don’t know when is our last day on this planet. So please don’t waste your days by feeling guilty.

You’re here to feel the love and to love someone. Build something that adds some value in people lives.

Create a legacy. Let your work make the difference.

Love the people who love you and appreciate their efforts to make you smile.

2. Try to Keep things and Life Simple

In this fast-paced world, it’s really difficult to live a simple life (or we made it difficult for us).

At least we can try to keep things simple that are in your control.

And how can you do this: Don’t let your past control you and your presence.

I believe you keep saying, “I want to come out from my past but I’m struggling from a very long time.”

Let’s say…

You have a piece of coal in your hand and it’s making your hands dirty.

You say, “I want to clean my hands but you keep holding the coal in your hands.”

It’s not going to work out this way. You just can’t keep screaming to clean your hands when you have the coal in your hands.

You have to take action and throw the piece of coal if you want clean hands.

Your past is that piece of coal and you just can’t keep waiting for things to be changed. You have to stand up and do something to change the things and your situation.

You won’t get the peace of mind until you throw the coal. Maybe there’s a person who loves you most and you want to love that person with your complete heart. But your past resists you to do the same.


Feed yourself empowering thoughts and surround yourself with people who want to see you grow and make you better. What do you think? Please share your amazing thoughts here.

4 Comments

  1. A crucial message for all those who are struggling hard to get out of their dreadful past experiences. Nicely summed up!

  2. Its truely good…very relatable and its just the baggage is more and irrespective of n number of times it comes back and we just get used to live with it …we all ignore it and this is something very relatable… i can relate. 🙂

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